K~ - Gender Bias ..... "I anyways anyways don't like the boys".

Let me admit that K~ has a very strong gender bias. She displays all possible hate actions against the MALE species mercilessly, to the extent that even her own father has not been spared from it.

I feel it is rooted partially in her childhood. To add to it is the fact that she is too high on EQ (Emotional Quotient), perhaps way too high that could be termed as fine or correct for her age. This analysis has nothing to do with the fact that I am her parent, or owing to the specialness she holds for me but this statement is collectively based on the feedback of various teachers over the last three years coupled with her behaviour trends towards all.

K~ was born under special circumstances when I lost my dear Maa in a tragic road accident, pregnant with K~ over eight months ..... considered to be quite an advanced stage of pregnancy. You can guess what hell must have followed and to make matters worse my father and sister both were hospitalised following the same accident. They had their backbone fractured in the horrible mishap. I was scattered in my mind, broken in my heart, numb in my soul and relentless towards my body when taking care of the last rites and commuting with food everyday to the hospital to take care of my ailing family. S+, my husband took care of the general FIR, post mortem reports, insurance, banks etc. etc. Although he was by my side all this while, I can cross my heart and say that I neglected myself physically and was in a perpetual state of mourning 24X7. In the middle of the night, I would wake up and open my mother's almirah to smell her clothes and squat down over the floor staring into blankness. There were her shoes, purse, notes and musical instruments all over the house and I would keep grieving silently all the time. I guess it must have affected the K~ inside me, almost ready to be born.

Presently, she gets impacted tremendously both negatively and positively which stays inside her for a long, long time. (I assume that is also where her introvert attitude stems from; Or she could have taken to her Mumma who is not really a great outgoing, heavily social person. But, I am fine with it owing to the fact that all types of people exist in this world and all of them stay happy and do well. )

Anyway, coming back to the causes of K~ 's gender bias, there could be a few probable reasons which led to this behaviour. Let me list them all :

1. The little boys who played pranks on K~ by pulling her hair, pushing her off the swing, scratching her cheeks and the worst of all, threw stones at her once when she was a toddler. I have never believed in protecting K~ from any outside threat unless it was life threatening. So, I just allowed it to happen and let K~ develop her own defence mechanism ...... which has always been fleeing towards the safe arms of Mumma .... Ha!

2. She has tried to connect with little boys innumerable times, by inviting them to play with her puzzles, dolls and pretend friends. Alas! Guns and cars were the only things that fancied them and they would keep toppling over her doll house arrangement and completed puzzles leaving her in a state of utter shock and dismay.

3. K~ since her infant days has been comforted by Mumma. There have been innumerable nights (Well! almost six months non-stop) when I have stayed awake feeding and playing with her from midnight till wee hours of the morning. I had tried to make it a pleasant experience for her by playing on some soft music and rattles for her. In the silence of the night, she has experienced a deep connect with me ..... hearing a motherly soft voice and feeling the softness ...... K~ related feminine voices with love and affection instantly made obvious by her preference for Dadi over Baba, Bua over Phupha, Maashi over Mesho and the most painful of all .... Mumma over Papa. Papa was available to her only in the evenings or weekends ..... again someone has to do the bread winning ..... right?

All the above led to K~ getting opinionated against the boys ......

But, I am sure she will get over it soon. She would be speaking and sitting with boys too in her class instead of clinging on to her three girl classmates. She would walk up to them fearlessly and bash them up if they do any wrong to her ..... till then my baby belongs to the Mahila Mukti Aandolan.

Way to go K~ ........ boys aren't so bad ....... trust me ........ you just have to find the right one!!!!!